about Body Language: Generally if you can tell if
the person you are interested by body language clues. If he or she is
facing you and has legs or feet pointing in your direction then you are
an object of interest. If a woman is stroking her hair or fondling
clothing then it is quite likely that you have made her feel good about
a huge part of life, it's a commitment of time and energy all in
itself. Read up on the vital instructions and tips for life to make
relationships less stressful and dating come more natural.
good indicator is if they are leaning towards you. Smiling is probably
the best indicator, if the smile is done with a slightly open mouth
that is even better.
even more than half of all direct human communication is done by body
language, understanding how it works and using it to your advantage is
a useful skill. This is true in many spheres of activity not just
A word of
warning; some people do give out crossed wire signals and in particular
women do seem to give out misleading signals in the first few minutes
of an encounter.
Phones are a turn off:
When you are with your date ensure that your phone or tablet is off and
out of sight. A study conducted by Dr Andrew Przybylski at the
University of Exeter in the UK showed that both women and men are
distracted by their presence, aparently just being in the same room
with a mobile phone has an effect on empathy and trust, impacting
negatively on the relationship. Putting your phone on a restaurant
table is very definitely out!
THINGS affect dating success; turning up on a date with a guitar case
is a good idea according to another study, but a sports bag will be
turn off -- ttb
Safety. There are millions of attractive, and decent people
out there, the greater majority of people are genuine, but the Internet
Dating Game also attracts some nasty, scary people. The respondent
could be someone very different from the one that they present
themselves as BE AWARE.
far to go on on that first date? Obviously one wishes to give
a good impression but how much of your true self is it wise to reveal
the first time you actually meet in the flesh? Some people require more
time than others, but everyone, men and women, need to go through
several stages. There are five or six discrete stages between that
first contact and an enjoyable relaxed intimacy, miss one
or more of these stages and it is likely that everything will fall apart.
If you are
lucky then perhaps you could get to stage three by the second date. Sex
in the early stages is not recommended. It is almost always wishful
thinking and if you have too much alcohol and if you misread the signs
you will end up looking like an emotionally immature teenage
take great care and research the person you are communicating
with. It is always a good idea to arrange your early meetings
in a public space, in an environment where you can have friends look
out for you.
Date. A psychology graduate friend (middle aged) admits to a
bout of self-stimulation prior to meeting a new lady, he claims that it
is the only way that he can prevent the thoughts originating from his
lower half from spoiling his encounters. R**** P****** when he reads
this will cringe, I know but as a public spirited individual he will
understand. -- Friend Indeed
sure that family and friends know where you are. Do not be
put off meeting people but take all of the elementary precautions.
Trust your instincts. If the person you are meeting is sincere then
they will be understanding about your cautiousness. Arrange your own
transport, both to and from the venue.
your address secret until you are very sure of the person. No matter
how persuasive they are, do not agree to a second meet if you have any
not talk about your Ex: Doing so will usually be a big turn
off. If your date brings up the subject, gently steer the subject away.
Say that you are the kind of person that lives in the present.
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Dating and Relationships: It can be hard work persuading
some family members to come to terms with the new partner from other
races and colors. One way that I tackled this was to talk about my
partners likes and dislikes and interests and tastes. Now all my close
family have a view of him that is not a simple stereotype, not all have
changed attitudes completely but they now see him in a much more
three-dimensional way - Rita Nonymouse June 15 2007
SOMEONE SPECIAL FOR THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE. Be yourself was
advice given to me about how I should behave on my first date with a
person I really was attracted to. That really scared me for it begged
the very difficult question - WHO AM I? - - - - THAT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE
A JOKE!, - - - WHAT? YOU DIDN'T LAUGH....But seriously we all
try to be someone special for that special someone and trying to match
up to the image really can make you a better and more successful
person. Make the effort to dress and conduct yourself well. And do keep
up the effort the next time you meet. So many relationships founder
because the one or both of the parties become blasé and complacent.
Scams. One of the most common scams is the one where,
after the exchange of e-mails and pictures, the person asks you to open
a bank account in which he or she will deposit a large sum of money,
what happens next will vary from case to case but can often involves
counterfeit cash. Never part with cash, if they mention cash then the
probability that it is a scam is in the region of 99%.
the contact yourself? or use a Dating Agency or some other
means of making that first contact? Dating agencies come in all shapes
and sizes and it is a good idea to check out several before you decide
which one is for you. Have you tried your local supermarket?
scam is 'THE HOSPITAL BILL' you have been
exchanging emails and getting along well with the other party, however
on the day you are to finally meet you get an email telling you that
your date has met with a near fatal accident or been diagnosed with a
life threatening disease and you need to send money
you sure the person you are talking to is in the Netherlands and not
Lagos Nigeria, most of the scams originate from that part of the world
and are perpetrated by very highly skilled professionals.
it relaxed: Your conversation should never give the other
person the idea that she is being investigated. Never probe; "ve haf
vays ov making you tokk" did work in the days of Nazi rule but in the
dating game you should let the other person reveal themselves at their
USA versus Europe: If you
are trying to win the heart of someone from another continent then it
is as well to understand the different approaches. Northern European
men are more self-restrained and expect the female to give overt
signals. Southern Europeans can seem pushy but there is often a
concealed shyness. With people from another culture it takes much more
effort than is usually appreciated. To get to where you have good
communications takes time. Communication is the key, explain
what is confusing you and try to find out what is confusing your date
and it will usually turn out OK in the end. Patience and perseverence
are the key to success.
Modestly, No need to be a big spender? Younger men often
feel that they have to impress a lady on the first date. A lunch date
is sometimes more revealing than theatre and an expensive restaurant.
Sort out if the bill is to be shared before the meet.
you can't make it, be considerate: Let the other person know
well in advance if you can't get there on time. If you have a busy
schedule warn the other party of the risks of your being called away.